Living and Expressing an Attitude of Gratitude
by Ben G. Hubert, LPC-S and Certified Couples Therapist by the Gottman Institute

The Impact of Gratitude on Relational Health

Most of us are taught that saying, “thank you,” is the right thing to do, but we may not realize just how powerful those two words really are. Gratitude isn’t just polite—it’s good for your physical health, emotional well-being, and your relationships. People who practice gratitude tend to sleep better, feel less stressed, and experience fewer physical complaints. They’re also more likely to take care of themselves, whether that’s exercising, keeping medical appointments, or simply slowing down when their body needs rest.

Emotionally, gratitude helps us feel more grounded and resilient. People who regularly practice gratitude report more positive emotions and lower levels of depression, anxiety, stress, and feeling overwhelmed. Living with an attitude of gratitude intentionally shifts our attention away from what’s missing and toward what’s already present and supportive in our lives.

Over time, gratitude doesn’t just help us feel better—it helps us show up better. When we feel healthier and more emotionally steady, we tend to be more available, reliable, and engaged with our partners, families, friends, and coworkers.

What Is Gratitude?

Gratitude is about recognizing and appreciating the good in our lives—both big and small. Often, that good comes from outside ourselves: another person’s effort, kindness, presence, or support. In relationships, gratitude reminds people that they matter and that who they are—not just what they do—is valued.

Gratitude in Close Relationships

Gratitude sends a clear message: “I see you. I appreciate you. You matter to me.” Couples who regularly express appreciation tend to feel closer, more trusting, and more emotionally connected.

Gratitude as a Daily Practice

At home, thank your partner for everyday efforts—making dinner, handling bedtime, fixing something that broke. It is recommended to express gratitude to your partner at least five times per day. Naming character traits and building simple rituals of appreciation strengthens emotional safety.

In friendships, express appreciation for support, consistency, and shared presence. Saying gratitude out loud deepens connection.

At work, acknowledging effort, teamwork, and reliability helps create healthier and more supportive environments.

Expressing Gratitude to Our Children

Gratitude toward children helps them feel seen, valued, and emotionally secure. Thank children for effort, kindness, honesty, cooperation, and who they are—not just what they accomplish.